What to do if they fight: Fights of children: should we intervene?

Many parents wonder whether we should intervene in the conflicts of our children for two years with other children. The modus operandi depend on the situation in which it is the child.

We are in doubt as: when and when not to intervene? How? Why or why not? We tell you how you act when your child fights with other children in the most common.

They want the same toy

John is playing quietly in the park with his bucket and shovel. Suddenly, another boy comes and takes away the shovel. A John does not make an iota of grace and tries to wrench.
Intervene? Not

In principle, no. At this age the fights are not usually serious and with a little time, children solve their own conflicts. But not always. If the fight for the same toy reaches the hands and becomes a ruthless struggle, then feel free to step in to separate them and protect them. In the second part of the intervention can take a mediating role, ie Enfold them in seeking an agreement that satisfies both. What if one is left with the shovel and the other with the bucket?

Pinch his brother in secret

And when you find out you drop the heart sink. Do you do that so terrible shoot his brother? A hidden! You thought that the jealousy were a thing of the past ... Do you like you have not seen anything or you AFEAS their behavior?
Intervene? Yes

The opportunity gives the pinch is to understand the fears and needs that lead your child to interact well with their brother. No serious or awful, simply expresses something that fails to digest. Without scoldYou can tell what you have seen and talk about what happens. Your intervention is intended to protect the child and transmit security.

It touches everything in the supermarket

Luis has fun in the super. It is dedicated to passing their hands on as many surfaces as possible. If you are tough enough to caress him, some were caught and thrown into the car, if they are soft, like bread or bananas, enjoys squeezing the fingers. Her mother glances, not sure if is right or wrong, but if I had to go all the time scolding never end making the purchase.
Intervene? Yes

Although he never scolding. The child touches all those things guided by a healthy boost of learning, which in this case conflicts with respect to property of another. Recognizing his desire to learn, you can explain that the shop owners do not like to touch his things, and then offer an alternative to meet your need: give to explore the products you getting into the car and take Suggest another some himself. So, accept their need for handling and learning while you teach there standards related to respect the things of others.

Do not share things

And no way. Silvia is surrounded by his wrists and when your friends come with her daughter to spend the afternoon there is no way that you leave anything Silvia. The more you insist, the worse it gets the thing ...
Intervene? Not

It is important to recognize their right not to share. Are your things, not yours, and you must respect the child. This has nothing to do with selfishness, is a simple act of reassurance. If your girlfriend wants to play, let them understand, but do not force him to share. If behavior is repeated always, you can tell how well it goes a share and give example. If you do not want to share is a common good then it should intervene. Explain that belongs to all, show that other children enjoy and want to negotiate a way to share the swing.

It has a huff

Carmen does not know where to go when Laura drops to the floor screaming in the middle of the street. "If nothing happened," he says Carmen. He has tried everything from the smallest to reason with him a couple of good cries, but nothing works. Sometimes the leaves scream until he gets tired. But it can take so long to get tired ...
Intervene? Not

Intervention is not necessary, but accompany. Or rather, accompanying intervene. Although not understand his reasons, tantrums are an expression of rage you should not block. Must accompany the child to not hurt when you hug and permits, supporting you to move beyond that state of mind.

You stuck in the nursery

One day Daniel woke up grumpy. Also the next and the next. "Cole, no," became the slogan morning. His mother asked the teacher if Daniel had any problems. This told him that a partner had taken a little with him, but they were "childish things" and not to worry. The resistance of Daniel to go to the nursery grew and her mother could not do.
Intervene? Yes

Our son is going wrong, though apparently not important, and we give you tools to avoid it. Talk to the teacher and with him. It is important to express what happens, and you will feel relief and support. You can ask directly and share any stories related to the topic. You should also teach protected. It hurts to talk to the teacher. If something is going to significantly alter our son, it's good that your "sign" to know, you may be missing information.

Paste in the nursery

Ricardo is the child who sticks to Daniel, his fellow nursery, One every other day too. Your mother is ashamed of complaints from the teacher, but do not know what to do. When Richard asks if it hits, he always says no.
Intervene? Yes

Excessive aggressiveness informs you that something is wrong. One thing is that sometimes when you release the hand and quite another to hit consistently. It is important to locate you and, in parallel show to express his anger or disagreement of any other way. How to intervene? The purpose of your participation is not inhibit aggressive behavior, but to know what happens to the child who makes manifest so violently. It is also important to teach a different way of expressing his aggression. Although only having two years, can explain the consequences of their actions. If you need support to find out what the child alters can always go to a professional to help you locate the problem and fix it.
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