The child refuses go to school

The refusal of children to attend school is often based on irrational fear, which usually appears first in children attending preschool nurseries, being more common in second grade who attend. To show their displeasure by going to school, the child frequently complain of headaches Of throat or stomach just before time to go to school. The "disease" better when allowed to stay home, only to reappear the next morning before going to school again. In some cases, the child may refuse entirely to leave the house and for that we use all the strategies at their disposal as mourn and react with a huff.

Why does not the child go to school?

This attitude is very common in firstborn, especially when, after the arrival of a brother see how he must leave home, while his mother is the youngest child care. Denial of school can also occur after a period in which the child has been home with his mother, for example, after summer vacation, About holidays or after a brief disease.

How to help your child not to go to school?

With calm and tranquility. Usually attend school is an enjoyable event for young children, but for others it represents fear or panic. Parents have good reason to worry when they see their child becomes ill due to stress. Some children "malingerers" or exaggerate physical symptoms to stay home and not go to school. Often the child between five and ten years old, who behaves in this way, is suffering from a paralyzing fear of leaving the safety of family and home. It is very difficult for parents to address child's panic, but these fears can be treated successfully with or without professional help. It all depends on the degree of fear that a child has. If parents notice that may be a fad, it's about stress, talk to him and his teacher for their day to day school more interesting and probably all will.

Fear of school children

Children with an irrational fear towards school may feel insecure when left alone in a room. They can also show attachment behavior towards their parents and even become her shadow, following them everywhere. These fears are common in children with so-called "anxiety disorder". Furthermore, they have difficulty sleep, One exaggerated fear and an unrealistic fear of animals, monsters, thieves or darkness. The potential long-term effects can be serious for a child with persistent fears, without care professional. The child may develop serious social problems at school and, if you stop going to school or see their friends for long. Before that can happen, parents can help their child taking it to a child and adolescent psychiatrist, who will work with him to return immediately to school and perform other daily activities.

Some children require extensive treatment to determine the causes of fear. Older children or adolescents, who refuse to go to schoolRequire more intensive treatment. In any case, the irrational fear of leaving home and the father or mother company can be treated successfully. Parents should seek professional help. The pediatrician can tell parents a child and adolescent psychiatrist.

Use of uniform in schools: do you agree?

More and more schools to set and use standard school uniform. To me, especially when my daughter switched to a supporter of school uniform, did not see it as a sacrifice or a breach of their freedom. Instead, we have felt so relieved! No more disputes in the morning for that 'what I wear?' or 'where are those pants that I love?', etc., etc.

Advantages and disadvantages of school uniform

My daughter came great to be in a school uniform. The buddies beginning to do at school did not come to her because she wore a fashionable clothing, brand or "cool" and "cool". In his previous school, she told me that there were girls who were always making comparisons of their clothes with the other and that seemed fatal. When I remember that, on the use of uniforms in schools. It seems that in some schools there obsession by idioms and comparisons based on the clothing worn by children.

The uniform, no doubt, is a very practical and more egalitarian dress the children. It is also more economical and convenient way to avoid discrimination and teasing within the school for who dress better or worse. The child who is not able to use higher-quality clothing and not feel different or inferior to others. The uniform, as the name says, unifying models and styles and can even encourage self-esteem and help everyone feel equal. Each child is valued for its efforts, for his contribution as a person, and so it takes over your body. Outside school, children already have their predilections as to what you saw.

I've always used uniformly small and have never had trauma or problems of autonomy, Nor at any time felt that was a uniform punishment I imposed the school along with my parents. Of course, many children refuse to have to put the uniform, but that's a very common attitude in students. At some point complain not only of the uniform, and also that there many duties, That dining food is bad or that your school will not let them take toys, Etc. The truth is that it was only in exclusive private schools, each day raises more interest from schools and parents of students. Done something bad, right?

Adaptation of children with 2 to 3 years

The adaptation of a 2 to 3 years to a nursery depend more on the attitude of teachers and caregivers of the child itself. Although you've said it, your child will not realize what it means to go to school until you have proven experience. The school staff is ready to welcome and facilitate adaptation in the early days. In addition, this work adaptation should be shared with the child's parents.

Attitudes of early childhood educators in adapting to school

- Approach. When meeting with the child: approach, respect and affection, without anxiety or overwhelm.
- Knowledge child's name prior to their arrival at the school.
- Creating a climate of security individual and collective emotional.
- Tranquility with manifestations of maladjustment the child (tantrums, cries, Inapetencias) but not abandoned.
- Individual attention But not exclusively, especially in everyday moments: arrivals, farewells, meals, understanding them as moments of great importance for the affective individually with the child, trying to avoid rushing, bustling or nerves.
- Knowledge of personaidadthe child through a parent interview, observation of the child and their reactions to everyday situations at school.
Child's social adaptation to the group

- Activities. As he adapts, educators are responsible for organizing activities for the child to get in touch with the rest of the group: Knowing the names of other children.
- Stages. Knowledge of the developmental stage being experienced by the child, understanding the egocentricity characteristic of this stage and helping overcome through group activities that encourage learning share material (not all mine), to care for and pick it up.
- New emotions. Educators try to channel their child aggressiveness in situations of sharing, looking for alternative ways (do not remove this toy to your friend, take another shelf).
- Behavior. The child's aggressive behavior must be understood as a form of normal relationship at this age and in the adaptation period. The limits to this behavior should be placed by educators in a non-aggressive and stress, like the rest of the educational limits that apply to school or daycare center.

Adaptation of the baby to the new space

- Knowledge of the spatial-class: objects, ornaments, furniture.
- Knowledge of the material.
- Knowledge of cleanliness.
- Knowledge of the courtyard.
- Knowledge of dining room.
- Knowledge of nursing.

Relationship teachers with parents

- To give confidence and assurance to parents.
- Interviews (also as a way to meet the parents and see their relationship with their children).
- Inputs and outputs must be at least possible conflict: patience with parents.
- Recommendations and bounds clear to parents from the beginning (timeliness, clothing marked) to avoid clashes.

Note: Explain to your child always new situations all going to live: everyday situations, activities, input, output, garden, food or nap.

Back to school without drama or acrimony

There is very little to children back to school and many parents put their hands to the head concerned about how your little one will react when you have to go or return to school, waking up early, go back to any obligation or need to stop being all day playing. Not all the children along. I think very few.

It is time to return to routine, to a more organized and full daily schedule, and that, although it seems simple, is not as easy to assimilate, especially for children. For this reason, weeks before your child to go or return to school, You should take some steps to make the transition from vacation to school not catch it once.

Good Habits for Back to School

1 - Children should start going to bed and wake earlier. Parents should establish new schedules the dream, For times of feeding. That will prevent the child sleeps or gets angry, tired and even grumpy on the first day of school.

2 - It is important for children to make a review of academic activities or review the tasks that the teacher left them. That will prevent it does not feel so insecure and fearful in the early days of the school.

3 - It is recommended that children already have organized and lined the new books, School supplies, uniforms (if applicable), backpack, case, Shoes, Etc.., Before the start of classes. This will prevent them feel anxious and worried.

4 - Promote a meeting with the friends of the child. That will help "break the ice." You will feel more secure and sheltered.

5 - It is also important that parents have a positive attitude, patient and firm about back to school for their children. They should always highlight the positive school. That will prevent the child is nervous and afraid.

6 - It is advisable for parents to build a communication channel open with the children. To collect at school, look how was your day in the classroom and playground. The child will feel more positive and supportive.

7 - It's time to set new times: time to go to bed, wake up, of watch TV, Playing, eating, etc.., So that little by little the child gets organized.

8 - It is advisable for children to cross the bridge of the holiday to academic life in a serene, without excess or strain. The extracurricular activities can expect a few short weeks.

Otherwise, avoid giving it much thought and theme. Parents must understand that it is a transitional stage as many others. Parents should only worry if the child, after a week, still not wanting to go to school and begin to feel pain above the belly, head ... That may be post holiday syndrome symptomsOf illness, or infirmity for another reason. In this case, talk with your child and try to help.