2012-12-29

The baby will not go to kindergarten: Five Keys to avoid trauma

Visit the center's facilities before the baby child and respect are key times to avoid separation anxiety arises

Mourn, kickingand refusing to come to the center are some of the common reactions during the first days of kindergarten. The separation of his parentsat an early age forces children to deal with an emotional situation for which there are often prepared. In most cases, this attitudeis inevitable, but there are strategies to mitigate the trauma. The five essential keys, listed below, are toprepare the ground, respect the adaptation period, show safety, care farewells and reunions, as well as maintain a smooth information channel.

1.Paving the way for the arrival of the child to the nursery:

The arrival in the nursery the child is suddenly confronted with anenvironment in which everything is new: the place, the other small and, above all, the person who will take care of it. In addition, entry into the school implies a change in the habits and schedules that followed until then. The following guide lines will help make the change is not so abrupt:

•Before the course begins,the child should visit the center's facilities, go with it stays where you develop your journey and try to explain,  with courage and joy, that this will be a new place to enjoy and pass it along with others small.

•In the same previous visit, you should know your teacher and you can see that between him and his parents have good connection and collusion.

•One or two weeks before the start of the course, you mustgradually adapt the schedules and routines of the child to have to get used to it soon after.

•Tell the child what will happen, speak of the days before the change and how it will always convey a positive perception.

•In form the center and educators who will carry the child of all relevant aspects that allow them to know you better and treat you with more closeness: psychomotor evolution, their tastes and interestsor sleeping or eating routines, among others.

2.Respect the adaptation period of the children's center:

Nurseries often have a period of adaptation, shorter hours
Most nurseries have established aperiod of adaptation of children during the first few weeks, allowing gradually get used to the new situation. In general, is to start the day with a short time (one or two hours in the nursery) and increase it gradually, over the next days and weeks. It is important that parents respect these times and, if they can not pick up or carry the baby in the established schedules, delegated to other family members. See how other children before they leave, or left alone waiting, may be counter productive for adaptation and generate more anxiety in them.

3.Show security in front of children:

Sometimes the separation anxietyis higher in parents than boys. The feeling of guilt, distrust or nervousness of parentsis usually easy to transmit to their children. But only generate more anxiety in them. Therefore, it is important to show trust and confidence at all times.
Do not give in to the demands of the child or if shown surrender totally against going to the center. If yields once, the little understood that gets annoyed with his attitude what is proposed and will not hesitate to repeat it.

4.Caring farewells and reunions:

The farewells should be happy but fast
The farewells should be loving and joyful, but fast. Especially if the small is reluctant to enter the school. Prolonging farewell not mitigate his griefand see that their parents are pricked only increase his anxiety. Also, it is not advisable to leave the sly, without leave of the child, as it will generate more confusion. It is important that, at parting, parents remember to return the child to look at the set time and respect the time of collection.

5.Maintain a flow of information to the nursery:

For the process of adaptation is a success, it needs to be a fluid communication channel between parents and care givers of small. When both input and output of the center are good times to inform the school of any relevant aspect which may affect the child's routine (if you sleep less, has not eaten, if sad, etc.).also pay to ask about your progress in the nursery or other matters of interest.

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